Caught in the jaws of the EX - When she’s very much alive

She is a rattle snake, wading her way into your life – only to take a strike at you.

Such is the ex to your current boyfriend.  She wants to be your friend and you are gullible enough to accept the request.   What is blocked to your mind is the fact that she had him first.

Dorothy (not real name), experienced the sting.

Earlier on in February she got a friend request from a stranger (Aisha) on face book and on checking the “friends in common section,” she found her to be a friend to her boyfriend Ismail. 

Before she accepted, she sought advice from her beau who told her to turn down the request – advice she didn’t heed.

Believing that she needed more friends in her life, she accepted not knowing she was inviting a she-devil in her soon-would-be short life with her boyfriend.  “Curiosity got the better of me, I was dying to know her, but I wish I hadn’t,” she said.

She extended the friendship further by writing on her new found friend’s wall, apparently the ex wasn’t in the mood for the enthused friendship – she simply never replied.

“The confrontation finally got home when she plainly wrote me in the politest of manners,” Said Dorothy.

Excerpt from the email.

Aisha
Hi long time, how a you doing, greetings to your husband, bye.

Dorothy
Thanks dear, I’m fine, Ismail too, hope ur fine. When I wrote on your wall you never replied so I was a little withdrawn but I will definitely be in touch.  Was great hearing from you.

Aisha
I’m fine and living my own life.  I’m in Kenya but will go to Uganda soon.  Did Ismail explain to u my relationship with him?

Dorothy
Hi, no he didn’t, I’m also studying in Kenya. So how do you know Ismail?

Aisha
He is my future husband even though we have miss-understandings at the time, you are the one failing me - did u know that?

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Dorothy was in shock, for a minute she thought her heart had stopped.  “I knew I wasn’t supposed to believe her, but the confidence with which she wrote made it real – and she is a moslem,” she said. 

The fear was confirmed more when Ismail told her he had been dating Aisha for four years. She said the “fickle” ex was clear on expressing what her problem with her was, after suffering all the formalities of “hi”.

All she knew was that the “b***h” had given her reason to fight for her man but a month later as she broke it off with Ismail, she admitted that Aisha had as well made her think thrice about the boyfriend, among other break-up factors.

Yes indeed it is true the ex’s are very much alive and when they believe they can get their man back, you the existing girlfriend will feel insecure however much you are titivated with love.